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Published Articles
Tanya talks about virginity and sexual experience in June Cleo 2010
Tanya is a regular columnist for a dating website, read her articles here: Mind Your Manners
Tanya is interviewed sexual compatibility Cosmopolitan Magazine January 2010
Tanya is interviewed The Cosmopolitan Sex Survey Cosmopolitan Magazine November 2009
Tanya is interviewed on women and sex in August Notebook Magazine
See Tanya's top health tip for females in July Cleo Magazine
Read Tanya's comments about slow sex in Cleo June 2009 (pdf)
Tanya was featured in Feburary’s issue of Cosmopolitan (2009) talking about keeping sex alive in relationships ( pdf).
Tanya was interviewed by national radio station Triple J about break up sex.
Tanya is the relationships and sex expert for My Child Magazine, a quarterly, quality parenting magazine. Her question and answer links are
below:
My Child Issue Six - Is childbirth the death of our sex life? (pdf)
Q Everyone says childbirth is
the death of the parents’
sex lives – is there any way to
prevent this from happening?
I am seven months pregnant.
A Sex drive in females drops
during pregnancy and after
birth. There are biological reasons
for this – prolactin, which is found
in the body while breastfeeding,
actually reduces sexual desire and
inhibits lubrication of the vagina.
This is nature’s way of stopping
us from reproducing before we
are able to physically care for
another child. Once a woman
stops breastfeeding, her desire
levels rise again. Using lubricant
when having sex can address
vaginal dryness.
First pregnancies are followed
by a permanent decrease in the
chemicals secreted by the brain
that affect libido. This accounts
for part of the lessening of desire.
There are physical limitations to
consider too. Some women feel
so stressed from the demands of
their multiple roles that they start
to view sex as just another chore.
Some mothers may suffer from
postnatal depression and theanxiety that accompanies this will
reduce desire levels too. And
let’s not forget the “invisible
umbilical cord” that prevents
mum from being carried away
with desire – her baby just has
to whimper and mum has lost
all interest in sex.
All this sounds disheartening,
but it is absolutely normal. Sex,in the form of intimacy, touching,
stroking and outercourse (external
sexual acts) can begin immediately
after birth. Doctors advise that
intercourse can start after the sixweek
check-up. That’s all well and
good, but there are other things
to be considered such as getting
used to a new baby.
The most important thing
to do is communicate with your
partner and check in on how the
other is feeling. This may sound
simple, but people don’t know
how to talk about sex. Feedback
and requests are seen as criticism
or nagging, which can result in
defensiveness. If you both
understand that it takes time to
get your sex life sorted after birth,
and you make the effort to talk
about it, manage expectations
and make time for intimacy, you’ll
be much further down the path
than most new parents.
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